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The past is the past♥Let it go♥Live life to the fullest and remember~never rely on someone else

About Me


I live by the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have done unto you." LUKE 6:31....People are so hypocritcal when it comes to this. Okay for them, but not for you?? Or, okay for you but not for them... Hmmmm, why is that???? And, if it is not okay with you, why do it in the first place? Something to ponder, huh??? I have two awesome sons (Brynn - 16 and Tyler - 8) both I simply adore. They are challenging and keep me on my toes, but I wouldn't have it any other way (well, sometimes~LOL). Brynn, my 16 year old lives in another state. We have been through a lot of stuff together so that is what makes our bond and love quite unique. Tyler, my 8 year old, is my little angel. He is the "minnie-me" male version of myself (sorry, but I don't put pictures of my youngest Tyler on myspace.) My faith and my boys are very important to me. Please don't ever ask me to choose you over them, you probably would not like the outcome (sorry)... And one last thing regarding my sons or anyone else's kids, please, don't "dis" someone's kids, even in joking, it just isn't cool. I work hard, being a single Mom isn't easy, but I am blessed and that is what is important. Each day of waking up is a gift to me, so I treat and cherish it as such. When you are my friend, I will always have your back and do anything for you. I choose to only have a few VERY close friends~because when they hurt, I hurt. I don't appreciate people that don't live up to their word. I don't like players or people that play games. Love to me is a gift. And I treat that gift as such. I cherish it, nurture it, and know how blessed I am that I have received that gift from You♥♥♥ In summary, all I desire is a peaceful life with no drama, my sons growing up to be GOOD MEN, and myself growing old with someone that will be my lover, partner & best friend ~ (you know the dream, a cute elderly couple, both on their patio sitting in rocking chairs, holding hands, enjoying and loving each other more than life itself.)
Greatest friend in the world BBF~BFF "25" year friendship and still rockin'
Let's take a minute to talk about me...
♥I'm simple, yet.. I'm complex.♥
♥redhead, naturally, but a little help with a box lately.♥
♥My name is spelled with an "i", take note please.♥
♥I dress up during the week so prefer casual on days off. But I'll definitely dress up if the need arises.♥
♥addicted to reading books.♥
♥My favorite ouside activity is bike riding.♥
♥I love Big Bear and would like to retire there.♥
♥I am so far from perfect, but I try to work on my shortcomings. And if I make a mistake, I will make an amends. Life is too short to hold grudges. There is only one perfect person that I know, and he is the one that judges me when all is said and done.♥
♥I truly believe that anything is attainable if u want it bad enough and work for it.♥
♥I love flowers & love notes & surprises & txt messages.♥
♥Chivalry is not dead ~ I respect that from a man more than anything♥
♥My dog has been through most all of my difficult times and loves me unconditionally.♥
♥cheaters/liars = BAD people ~ (Judgement day). Good luck on that.♥
♥I do wish religion would come back Monday thru Saturday, not just Sundays. 24/7 would be nice.♥
♥I always like to smell pretty and feel soft and silky.♥
♥I LOVE the beach... either sitting with a cup of coffee just staring out at the beauty of it, or walking on the pier with a friend. It's always good...♥
♥High expectations for my life: I want PEACE, LOVE, HAPPINESS, RESPECT and a man that can be my partner, and also my best~friend.♥
♥I would rather have a few close friends that I would do anything for than alot of acquaintances.♥
♥I know everything I feel, sometimes I just can't put it into words the way you would understand. I do analyze things too much ~ working on that.♥
♥Children are a gift from GOD - treat them as such.♥
♥I want to take many vacations with someone special.♥
♥Oh, and I LOVE to dance.♥
♥Only do things for me if you want to, not because you feel you "have" to. And please, only say things to me if you mean it.♥
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I have many, but here are a few: Reading, a nice glass of merlot (wine tasting is fun), and coffee with friends. Oh, did I mention I love chocolate??? (Dark chocolate bordeaux from Sees, yummy) What woman doesn't love chocolate. I LOVE romance ~ candle light, soft music, a fire in the back ground, cuddling with someone special, Glen Ivy Hot Springs (kinda fun spreading mud all over each other), going to the beach, boating, long walks while holding hands and talking with that someone special, vacations ~ cruises and tropical, or in the mountains with a jacuzzi, dancing, play pool, bowling, darts, and going to concerts (I just saw Def Leppard, Styx & Foreigner ~ they ROCKED!!!)... I like to go out to dinner ~ sushi is my all time fav along with mexican, but like a good steak now and then too. I can cook and have been told that it's not half bad (no one has gone to the Emergency room yet.) Wednesday night Wingo (bingo Hooters style) at Hooters with my son(s), love the HOT chicken wings and fun with bingo... And the best part about mornings, is a restful nights sleep and my 5 to 10 cups of coffee....it's my only addiction ;)

I'd like to meet:


1st off, GOD (when my time is due).

People like me ~ Faithful, loyal, trustworthy and honest = INTEGRITY. This is so important. I would rather someone tell me the truth and it hurts and we go "through" it together, than someone lie to me, not tell me at all, or tell me what they "think" I want to hear to safe face and then me doubting them. It's okay to cry and get angry, but you need to go through it ""TWO~gether""... That's what makes a relationship/friendship. Also, if one person is not willing or not as into it as the other, then the relationship/friendship will NEVER work. Trust me, I've tried. Romance is very important to me. And with the right man, I will reciprocate ten~fold. But, if you are with me for the wrong reasons (whatever those reasons may be) and want or expect something out of me, it's best then that we part friends and go our separate ways.

But for the people I have known in my past... I have

because it made me who I am today.

Music:

The oldies ♪♪(good 'ol rock~n~roll - 93.1 Jack FM). I grew up in the 80's, so you know what I'm talkin' about ;) Anything with a good beat that you can swing your hips to. Trust me, I play my music ♪♪ LOUD... I guess that might explain why my hearing is not the best...or...why I have to play my music loud...LOL...When you get to know me, You will learn to talk to me on my left side and that you will probably have to repeat things alot. But, it is what it is and my true friends have learned to be patient with it.

Movies:

Chick flicks (Pretty Woman) and horror, quite the combination - (sounds like movie bi-polar to me). But drama and suspense are good too. Have to really be in the mood to watch a movie though, because most of the time, I like to cuddle with someone and fall..... asleep.....

Television:

The brainless kind so that if you fall asleep, you know it will re-run (Five and a Half Men is my all time fav plus enjoy King of Queens). Also like to watch the food network. I like football (San Diego Chargers) and basketball (Go Lakers). Baseball kinda bores me, but if it is the play-offs, I'm there. Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyer.

Books:

The BIBLE 1st. Then romance and mysteries. I would rather read than watch TV anyday. Okay, my 2nd addiction.... :) My favorite author is karen Kingsbury... See my album for a picture of her and I...

Heroes:


....and my Dad...
My Definition of a Real Man:
1.) A REAL MAN respects his mother and Father & places his family first. 2.) A REAL MAN raises his kids, not JUST out of pocket either. 3.) A REAL MAN supports his woman to develop herself 4.) A REAL MAN doesn't kiss & tell. 6.) A REAL MAN calls you beautiful, and sexy, and ONLY you. 7.) A REAL MAN CALLS U on a daily basis - NO MATTER HOW BUSY OR TIRED HE IS. 8.) A REAL MAN looks past what he's heard about you or what his friends think of you - he doesn't judge you from your past. 9.) A REAL MAN wants to spend as much time as he can with you. 10.) A REAL MAN comes over just to watch a movie. 11.) A REAL MAN kisses you on the forehead just because. 12.) A REAL MAN doesn't tell you what he thinks you want to hear. He tells you what's real. 13.) A REAL MAN helps with the chores. 14.) A REAL MAN doesn't ask questions when you say you need him. 15.) A REAL MAN lets others know he's involved. 16.) A REAL MAN doesn't play games! No tit for tat. 17.) A REAL MAN doesn't leave his girl to go and hang out with his friends if he hasn't seen her in a while. 18.) A REAL MAN doesn't deny you. 19.) A REAL MAN doesn't just think about sex. 20.) A REAL MAN isn't a player. 21.) A REAL MAN wouldn't use a woman to get something out of her. 22.) A REAL MAN knows the difference between a REAL WOMAN and a random girl.
Are you a REAL MAN?

My Blog

God said, No...

I asked God to take away my habit.God said, No.It is not for me to take away, but for you to give up.I asked God to make my handicapped child whole.God said, No.His spirit is whole, his body is only t...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Thu, 16 Oct 2008 03:59:00 PST

Emotional Affairs vs. Physical Affairs

I have been asked by many of my girlfriends, what my thoughts were to Emotional Affairs. I have always stated that an emotional affair is just as   damaging as a physical affair if not ...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Fri, 03 Oct 2008 02:59:00 PST

43 to 44

Well, another year has passed...  I am officially "44 and Fabulous"...  I LOVE that phrase and I say it often (especially to my boys...wink~wink)....  This past year has been one of ma...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Fri, 22 Aug 2008 09:16:00 PST

With Every Goodbye, You Learn....

After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security. And you begin to learn ...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Mon, 04 Aug 2008 08:59:00 PST

Time for him to go...

Well, my 16 year old son Brynn is leaving to go back to MO tomorrow.  It will be bittersweet.  We had a fabulous time while he was out here.  So instead of dwelling and getting sad abou...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Sat, 02 Aug 2008 09:03:00 PST

What I have learned

Let's see...  Where do I start....The last six months have been interesting...  A learning experience to find out more about myself...  I have come to the realization that I am a vibran...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Wed, 21 May 2008 10:14:00 PST

Believe in yourself ~ from a friend

THE BOTTOM LINEFACE IT, nobody owes you a living.What you achieve, or fail to achieve in your lifetimeIs directly related to what you do or fail to do.No one chooses his parent or childhood,But you ca...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Thu, 15 May 2008 10:25:00 PST

The Art of Letting Go ~ from a friend

Single hardest thing is LETTING GO of loved ones within relationships, I work so hard in my own life to make things work and accomplish the goals I set forth. I have hung on too long within relationsh...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Wed, 14 May 2008 01:23:00 PST

No boys please...

Listen, I am a 43 year old women, and DO NOT want to be pursued by someone in their 20's looking for another notch in their bedpost.  So if that is what you are looking for, then just pass my pro...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Sat, 12 Apr 2008 12:47:00 PST

Do you ever wonder why

There are days I just sit and ponder as to why we go through such pain just for a glimpse of happiness? There are days I wish I could look into a crystal ball and foresee my future...
Posted by 44eneFAB on Wed, 02 Apr 2008 03:33:00 PST