There’s a self honoring principle that must underlie all relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself. We must all understand that ultimately we desire the same thing. Conflicts arise when there are differences in opinions, perceptions and understandings. On the surface differences appear as magnitudes of irrevocable recovery. Often times we circle the surface eternally in search of merit over another’s view point. This can prove to be a fun game at the pioneering stages of a relationship but after two or three repetitions it becomes redundant and arduous. These rebuttals act like cancer within the relationship; and like cancer, the more oxygen we give it the faster it grows. So as we continue to exhaust our energy in winning the others approval, the cancer worsens and the relationship growers closer towards its demise. This is a common occurrence within relationships; whether it be with a husband, wife, brother, sister, friend or stranger. "How can we diffuse such calamity and live harmonious with the context of two?" We must plunge through the surface into the depths of our innate oneness that we share with all humankind. Ultimately each individual seeks happiness. This is the one likeness that we all desire. Everyone may travel a different avenue in order to obtain this but inevitably we all travel in the same direction. With this understanding upheld, it is impossible to see anything but the oneness within all perceptible differences. Harmonious relationships can be challenging to uphold because of the versatility required to understand similarities within differences. Meaning each person must possess the flexibility to detach themselves from there thoughts and perceptions, in order to justly understand and accept the opposing view. Although you have detached yourself from your opinion, your underlying human essence is still happiness. From this state of mind you must recognize and identify the commonality of happiness that exists within the difference. Once you have engrossed yourself within both viewpoints, you must withdraw yourself entirely from the situation at whole and become the witness of the similarities within the differences. You’ll soon come to realize that ultimately you both desire the same thing (happiness) but you have alternative means of getting there. Neither routes are good or bad nor is one greater then the other. Both possess the same power and must be accepted uniformly in order to achieve harmony. Acceptance is a key ingredient within the harmonious recipe. As crucial as it is, it is most often the first ingredient removed from the equation because of its challenging nature. Our methods of achieving happiness most often differ from one individual to another and to accept this can be demanding; especially when those differences drive you apart in relation.