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My main goals here (in no particular order) are to share my original music with the unsuspecting public, to make new friends of both sexes from all over the world, and to reconnect with old friends. Most importantly, I want to become reacquainted with myself. I used to be a pretty cool person, and I want to meet that guy again.
I'm recently divorced. I'd like to find my soul mate (I know she's out there somewhere). My divorce is so recent that I'm not sure that I want to be married again, but I think the right woman will probably change my mind when that time comes. Nothing against my ex, because I still care about her and always will. But I will say this: Marriage isn't all it's cracked up to be, but divorce is, and you can take that any way you want. I'll tell you another thing: Marriage is expensive. Divorce is even more expensive, but for many people, it's worth every penny.
It's funny, you know? The day my ex and I separated was the day we started getting along.
As far as women are concerned: I'm attracted to a bad good girl, maybe a tattooed soccer mom. :) In short, a genuinely nice lady who doesn't mind being treated well (it amazes me that there are so many women who are uncomfortable with being treated with respect), who knows when to let her hair down, and who has a wild and crazy side. Here are more specifics: On the one hand, I like non-smokers of most shapes and sizes who believe in God; who are genuinely nice and caring; who are intelligent, articulate, and creative; who love music and romance; who don't feel funny if a man opens a door for them now and then; who, if they have kids, are good mothers to them; who can at least tolerate sports, and preferably enjoy sports; and who can laugh with me. An easygoing, intelligent lady with a good sense of humor, a great smile, and a kind heart will have my attention. And I have to have her attention as well. I'm not a high-maintenance guy. Quite to the contrary...in my marriage, I was getting less and less of my wife's attention as time passed, and I survived. But for most of the nearly 12 years that I was married, I was a second-class citizen in my own home. My woman has to be into me, and I have to be into her, or it isn't going to work. If the kids are constantly coming between us, forget it. If I can't romance my lady and we can't be affectionate and laugh together, forget it. Love and affection can't be forced, and the expression thereof should be spontaneous rather than scheduled; they have to be felt from within the heart. They can't be turned on and off like a light switch. Lovemaking is an all-day-long process. It starts when you wake up in the morning and greet each other, not at 10:30 when the TV news goes off. It's in the way two people connect with each other emotionally and treat each other all day long. What happens when the lights go out is a natural progression of what has happened during the day and evening.
On the other hand, I am drawn to women who have a naughty streak. Not all nice women can be naughty, but a naughty woman can be soooooo nice. My ideal woman knows when to be naughty and when to be nice, and she confuses the hell out of Santa Claus, so she gets lots of presents. :) Lest someone get the wrong impression, niceness is more important to me than naughtiness, but I like a woman who is complex and challenging in a good way. I'm somewhat introverted, so I am attracted to friendly, confident, outgoing ladies.
I'm not all that picky about looks. I am attracted to lots of different shapes, sizes, hair colors, and so on. No matter what a guy might tell you, he has his preferences, and I have mine. I did have some general preferences like height, hair color, etc. posted on here, but looking back, I thought I came across as being narrow-minded and superficial, which is really not me. I felt it might give the mistaken impression that women who don't meet a specific description need not apply, so to speak...should I put an application form on my page? :) I have in my mind right now four women I know that I find attractive, and they look absolutely nothing alike in any respect. So I truly am attracted to a variety of shapes and sizes. It's all good. A physical attraction helps to break the ice between two people, but it's not that important in the grand scheme of things. Two people need to be attracted to each other's heart first and foremost. It's what's inside that makes a plain woman beautiful or a well-adorned, shapely woman unattractive. Love isn't Tetris, for heaven's sake; there's no requirement that someone be a particular shape in order for there to be a proper fit.
I've never dated a woman with tattoos, but I'd be cool with a few tasteful tattoos and maybe some body piercings as long as she isn't a walking art gallery. Moderation in all things is nice... A nice, clear, melodic voice is a plus. Women from Canada and from the Pacific Northwest have the best voices, but I love Southern women's voices as well. Age isn't a big factor, but I'm most attracted to women aged 35-45. Ladies with kids or with no kids are equally OK. Some of the sexiest women on the planet are the "soccer mom" type. I think a pretty soccer mom-type with a tasteful tattoo or two and a naughty streak could knock me off my feet. (I've started writing a song called Tattooed Soccer Moms.) But it doesn't matter how pretty or how sexy a woman is if there's no emotional connection. Physical attraction is a factor in two people being drawn to each other, but without a connection, a relationship is empty and intimacy serves no purpose.
My band name came from when I was married and we had a dog who didn't just think he ran the household...he actually did run the household. My ex-wife, her daughter, and I were just his "pets". Now the girls, the dog, and a female cat are long gone. My stepdaughter only calls me when she needs money. Now my tomcat Hans and I live alone. He's probably the most spoiled, most loved, and most loving cat on Earth. Without his love, his irrepressably cute personality, and his companionship, I probably still would have made it through the past 15 months (my ex and I separated 15 months ago), but with less of my sanity intact. I don't know what I would do without him. But even being alone is better than being miserable with someone else; no house is as big and empty as the one that's shared by two people who have fallen out of love with each other.
I've been carrying on a passionate love affair with music since I was little. One day I heard Day Tripper by The Beatles, and I haven't been the same since. Then I heard Satisfaction by the Stones, and I couldn't put my transistor radio down after that. And when I heard The Doors' Light My Fire, I saw a glimpse of what heaven must be like. I love way too many songs to have a clear favorite, but Light My Fire is as close as any.
Beyond that, I love to create things, whether it be music or lyrics, arts and crafts, technical documentation for my computer software customers, or a card game. I love to write. When I was in high school I started writing rock lyrics. Some friends of mine who were in a hard rock band set one of my lyrics to music, and that planted the seeds for what I am doing today, musically. I've contributed to several hundred articles on Wikipedia, mostly just minor corrections such as fixing typos. But I can also take credit for having made major contributions (e.g., 25% to 75% of the article text) to several Wikipedia articles in various areas such as sports, music, and who's who. When Johnnie Carr, long-time civil rights activist from Montgomery, Alabama, passed away a few months ago, I created her Wikipedia page, which has since been added to by other contributors. It's not much, but I'm proud to have contributed. Reading Wikipedia is educational, but contributing to it is even more so. Try it sometime.
I am a huge Kansas City Royals fan, which is proof that I don't have a life. :) I also root for the Kansas City Chiefs, New York Islanders, and the University of Arkansas Razorbacks. Did you pick up on the fact that every one of those pro teams currently suck and generally haven't done well in years, and the Razorbacks' football team is struggling this year as well? Hopefully, loyalty counts for something, and that's my point. If you're looking for a friend, someone on whom you can depend to be there for you, consider me.
Back to sports for a moment...Major League Baseball is far and away my favorite sport. I'm somewhat ambivalent about football. Although I do care whether the Razorbacks and Chiefs win or lose, I usually watch very little football until around the college bowl season and the NFL playoff season. It's not that I don't like football; I think it's more a case of getting out of the habit of watching it years ago because my ex-wife would rather watch something else on TV. I haven't gotten back in the habit of watching it since I've been on my own again. When the Chiefs start playing better (they just recently snapped a 12-game losing streak), I'll feel a renewed interest in the NFL. I seldom get to watch hockey during the regular NHL season, but there are few things I enjoy more than watching the Stanley Cup playoffs. Watching golf or soccer is like watching paint dry; I'd rather watch freakin' gymnastics than watch soccer. I enjoy college hoops, but when I become king, my first official act will be to abolish the NBA. If people want to pay big bucks to watch one millionaire shoot the ball while nine other millionaires stand around watching him shoot, that's their problem. You couldn't pay me to watch NBA basketball. Give me the college game any day.
I love to play cards and board games. I've invented a couple of card games. One of them is a little like cribbage, but it's so complex and abstract that in play-testing, I found it to be unplayable by most people. Unless I can streamline the game or come up with a computerized version of it that can coach the player and help him/her decide what card to play next, it's likely seen its last game. But the other is a really cool trick-taking game for four players (two pairs of partners) that I would love to play-test if I could find three guinea pigs who would give me a couple of hours of their time. It's reminiscent of various aspects of Spades, Pinochle, and Contract Bridge, but it's not quite like any of those. There are three or four big twists to the rules. I'll give you a teaser: There are a whopping 22 trump cards now, and I am considering a rule change to allow one more trump card for reasons I won't bother you with. And how do you like the sound of this? There's a rule that says in certain situations, you are required to follow suit (standard fare, there), but in others, you are forbidden to follow suit! The game punishes lazy, inaccurate bidding and rewards clever card play. In short, it's a game for intermediate to advanced card players with a fair amount of experience at Spades and/or Bridge. It's not for everyone, but it is a game of strategy and challenge that gives good card players a lot to chew on, and I think good card players who would like a change of pace will really enjoy it. I'd love for people to try it out and give me some feedback on it. Message me if you would like the rules. I need to assemble them into a written format anyway.
