Coretta Scott King, Civil Rights Leader
"I still hear people say that I should not be talking about the rights of lesbian and gay people and I should stick to the issue of racial justice.
But I hasten to remind them that Martin Luther King Jr. said, 'Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.
I appeal to everyone who believes in Martin Luther King Jr.'s dream to make room at the table of brother and sisterhood for lesbian and gay people.
"Reuters, 3/31/98)"Gays and lesbians stood up for civil rights in Montgomery, Selma, in Albany, Ga. and St. Augustine, Fla., and many other campaigns of the Civil Rights Movement.
Many of these courageous men and women were fighting for my freedom at a time when they could find few voices for their own, and I salute their contributions." (Chicago Tribune, 4/1/98
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A Soulful Relationship
by Reverend Ronald McFaddenIf you're not married yet, share this with a friend.
If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples..
and
reflect on it.An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open,
and
after you marry, close one eye."Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust,
desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low
self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't
fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults
aren't really important.Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws,
vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.If you love your mate and want th e relationship to grow and evolve, you've
got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs,
values,
dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have
decided to share a life together.Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you
bring
out the best of each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete,
compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring
past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make
someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem,
spiritual
discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else
responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation,
control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a
thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a
relationship.What keeps a relationship strong?Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks,
some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal,
a shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).
Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing
common
goals and interests.Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each
other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have
outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of
belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another.
Learn each other's family situation.
Respect his or her parents regardless.
Don't put p ressure on each other for material goods.
Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the
relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect,
dishonesty, and pain replace the passion." Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher
than you think." The grass withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God
stands forever.
Isaiah 40:8 Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight.Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I.Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments
that take our breath away.
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