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michelle

innovate... or die.

About Me

Couples who imagine that by denying the procreative meaning of sexuality, they can enhance its unitive meaning—that by deliberately avoiding the so-called burden of children, believe they can enjoy a deeper intimacy. It doesn’t work that way. Why should it? The unitive capacities of the spouses don’t exist for nothing; they exist for their procreative partnership.That is their purpose, and that is the matrix in which they develop. Children change us in a way we desperately need to be changed. They wake us up, they wet their diapers, they depend on us utterly. They knock us out of our selfish habits and force us to live sacrificially for others; they are the necessary and natural continuation of the shock to our selfishness that is initiated by matrimony itself.To be sure, the spouses may try to live sacrificially for each other, but by itself, this love turns too easily inward. Let no one think that I am referring to couples who are childless through no fault of their own. In the natural course of things, if we willfully refuse the procreative meaning of union, then union is stunted. We are changed merely from a pair of selfish me’s to a single selfish us.

My Blog

heartless

if my thesis had a heart, i'd rip it out.  why is 30 pages so hard to squeeze out of my head?  i'm stuck at lucky number 13 and i'm feeling dulled and tired and bored.  i want to get ou...
Posted by michelle on Wed, 30 May 2007 11:32:00 PST

confucius

confucius always said that it was better to be like a reed than an oak tree.  after a storm the tree has been knocked down and broken because it stood tall, straight and unbending.  the...
Posted by michelle on Tue, 13 Mar 2007 09:19:00 PST

practice.

love isnt easy.  its like you have to do it so much that even when you dont feel it, its there.  i can do that with my parents and family, so why not with other ppl?  but it must be dea...
Posted by michelle on Mon, 11 Dec 2006 12:04:00 PST

ant-thropologically awed

so i was sort of disoriented... thinking that today was monday.  what a relief!  but thats not my point.  i was walking outside and there was this huge ant hill.  as you may ...
Posted by michelle on Tue, 07 Nov 2006 09:58:00 PST

SET FREE.

the following lyrics are the words i want to hear him tell me.  but I know he won't ever say them.  surprisingly enough though, i still feel so much more at peace knowing what i sh...
Posted by michelle on Fri, 27 Oct 2006 11:17:00 PST

I never know what to say!

dont you hate it when someone you care about makes wrong choices with their life?  i dont count myself out on that, i know i make bad decisions too sometimes.  its just really hard to confro...
Posted by michelle on Tue, 10 Oct 2006 10:05:00 PST

senior year memories in survey form.

Fill this out about your SENIOR year of high school!The longer ago it was, the more fun the answers will be.1. Who was your best friend?Emily and Donovan and Adam.2. What sports did you play?haha.&nbs...
Posted by michelle on Mon, 02 Oct 2006 10:44:00 PST

on my mind. not a happy entry.

strings of bad dreams have been happening recently and its so strange how you finally know what you want to do with your life and then your dreams tell you that you're running from something.  it...
Posted by michelle on Sun, 01 Oct 2006 11:22:00 PST

hiegene... higene... hygiene

dave barry's advice regarding hair care: "shampoo regularly with a shampoo bearing the name of a reputable beauty snot, such as Vidal Sassoon.  Also, be alert for dandruff, an incurable disease w...
Posted by michelle on Sun, 16 Jul 2006 12:09:00 PST

pop religiousity

pop art.  an incredible period of art.  i just watched "I shot Andy Warhol" which is basically a biography of valerie solanis, the woman who shot andy for not producing her play.  he di...
Posted by michelle on Thu, 13 Jul 2006 07:31:00 PST