Four years together this Xmas...
R-E-S-P-E-C-T... that is number one with me! Why would I start out the "about me" part with the word respect? Well I believe that respect is the #1 attribute that I find valuable and vital in another person. That and loyalty, but respect is #1 because respect breeds loyalty, so the two go hand in hand. Respect is that buffer wall between you and someone else that governs how that person treats you. If they have no respect for you, they will treat you like a doormat, walk all over you, and it will impact every aspect of your relationship with that person, because RESPECT is the color filter through which other people view you. They either have it for you or they don't. Respect cannot be GIVEN, it has to be EARNED. Earned over time by the way you treat other people, your morals and values, and yes, even your character. If someone does not have respect for you, you'll know it because they will not regard you in high esteem and will not think twice about running roughshod over your feelings, your lifestyle, and your very psyche. Respect is the foundational cornerstone of any quality relationship, whether it's a friendship, a romantic relationship, or a family type relationship.
About me huh? Well I'm an oddball to be sure. I'm quiet, thoughtful, highly intellegent, and don't place much value on the QUANTITY of my associates, but more the QUALITY. I have a knack that allows me to see right through people, so if I have an intuitive sense about someone, whether positive or negative, it's rarely wrong. I can't count the times that I've had a "gut feeling" about someone that later on turned out to be true. Hence, I don't pursue friendships for the sake of having more friends, but instead the friendships come to me and I can decide if the person is someone I want in my life.
I am perfectly fine doing solitary pursuits, and enjoy time spent either alone or with those I love. I despise sneaky, secretive people and high drama is something I am downright allergic to, so anyone with drama issues, please steer clear!
Sycophants disturb me, if only because I know that underneath the exterior, they are sucking up for a reason. Usually a not-so-good reason, but I can pretty much always see through it. I am not someone who falls prey to having the wool pulled over my eyes, and I can pretty much always spot a wolf in sheep's clothing (generally there's a tail sticking out if you look really hard....)
I have a very strange and unusual sense of humor. Loud boisterous blousy types turn me off, and I don't like being around those "blow-hards". I have noticed a correlation between those types (the blow-hards) and the tendency towards deception... generally that overblown in your face blousiness is hiding something that will eventually come out, given time.
I have never been called "the life of the party", in fact I am more likely to be in the background observing and perhaps quietly chatting with a friend or two, but I'm always observing. That's who I am... an observer and gatherer of "data" who then thinks about what has been gathered, and goes from there.
I do not partake of alcohol, nor do I smoke (anything) so right away, a lot of people label me as an "L7" but nothing could be further from the truth. I just prefer highly intellectual pursuits than the fluff of bar drinking games and back-slapping obnoxiousness.
I'm hard to get to know, but once you're "in" then I am fairly immovable as to whether I like you or not. Once "in" then you are innocent until proven guilty, but since I am always observing and thinking, chances are I am picking up a lot more than you think I am.
Mysterious? Perhaps. Intense? Yeah I've been called that. Passionate? To the max. There is no halfway for me... it's generally all or nothing. Chances are I can see right through you anyway so why bother posturing? Ask any of my friends... because they have gone through that scrutiny themselves... but I tend to have a few close friends that I keep for many many years... rather than many "faux-close" friends that come and go like the tide.
And.... for now... THAT'S ME!!!!