Do not give a fuck.
There are those who seek the spotlight and then there are those who by being themselves, draw the spotlight to them. When you know who you are, you don't have to waste your time being who everyone expects you to be. Take the case of Secretary of State Hillary Clinton. Love her or hate her, she's never been afraid of being the smart, ambitious and politically shrewd woman she's been her whole life– and she's not going to be baking you any fucking cookies. In fact, it wasn't til she returned to her brash populist bullfighter self that her Presidential bid caught fire– albeit it too late to stop the Obama Kool-Aid flood.Suffer.
Let's face it– a lot of our favorite gay icons are beloved because they leave behind a trail of misery and personal anguish. Frankly, this is the least admirable aspect of our gay icon worship and if we're honest, there's a bit of misogyny at work, since the long-suffering gay icon is almost always a woman. We've spent too many nights at piano bars listening to stories about Judy's pills to make any effort to deny it. Dying before your time might lead to immortality, but it comes at a steep price in the here and now.Make yourself dangerous.
While some get by on charm, a great gay icon isn't afraid to piss people off. When someone pushes you, push back, especially when nobody expects it. Subversion for it's own sake can get tiresome (We're looking at you, Courtney Love) and while gloss and glamor surround many a gay icon, others achieve lasting fame by ripping off the polychrome varnish of our everyday life to expose the messy and vital guts that make life worth living.
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