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ABOUT ME:My name is Benchamast Ngadsunthia, "Ben or Jen" for short. This is my real name. I was born and raised until the age of 15 in the country, in a little town in Thailand outside of Nakhon Ratchasima (Korat). I came from a very traditional Thai family. My parents' marriage was arranged and they had eight children: five girls and three boys. My dad owned his own business as a contractor and designer, but before he married my mother he was a Buddhist monk for 20 years. My mother was the daughter of a middle class farmer. I'm telling you about my parents to let you know what made me what I am today.My father was controlling and did not believe that women could lead or rule. He didn't want me to continue my studies after I finished the sixth grade. But I kept going against his wishes for three years more and finished the ninth grade. During those three years, he abused me verbally and sometimes physically. I got into sports at school so I would have an excuse to not go home. After the ninth grade, I just couldn't put up with him anymore, so I decided to leave home and move to Bangkok to be with my oldest brother and sister. My father worshipped my oldest brother and was so proud of him because he was in law school, but my sister had been nothing more than a servant to him since the age of ten. That's not fair. My brother wanted to pay for me to go to private school in Bangkok, but I didn't want him to. I wanted to do it on my own, so I did. I sang in night clubs from the age of 16 to 19 and paid to go to Saint John Polytechnic, a private school in central Bangkok. I graduated there with a diploma in Commercial Business. After that I applied to the University of New Hampshire in the U.S. I moved here on October 18, 1992.I met a Laotian guy in mid 1993 at the Buddhist temple in Keller, Texas. We married and had one child when I was 21. We divorced two and a half years later in April of 1996. I had already moved in with a Caucasian man at the beginning of that year that I had met at work. He was a 28 years old mechanical engineer for the Corning Company and now he owns a Construction Company in Dallas, Texas. In July 1999, he and I flew to Thailand and got married. In March 2003 we had our son, Nicholas. He and I separated due to differences in priorities and goals. I left him for another Laotian man in April 2006. The Laotian man and I had a baby in May of 2007. I'm through with him, he is dead to me...black heart person.I was on unemployment for a little while just to survive. At the same time I'm still a Thai singer, concert promoter and a party host for part time around DFW area whenver they needed me which is a lot of fun and I love it very much, I used to have my own laundromat and dry cleaning business, I was an Apartment Manager which was my X-husband owned it, Phamacist technician for Merck Medco, Sprint PCS as an employee Accountant. After that I was a a Honda and Nissan Car Sales Consultant for American company. Car Sales job didn't work out because it required long hours away from my kids and little time for myself. During all this I attended the University of Texas at Arlington. I've completed 90 hours since 1999 toward a degree in Finance and Real Estate. It's been hard for me to juggle a job, kids, and go to school at the same time.The bartender job fits well with my schedule since I can work in the evenings, which means I don't need to pay for child care. If I had another job like that I could go back to school during the day.I have already found him... My soul mate, my eternal lover, my best friend, my life...Gosh! I HATE Sikou!!!!!!It hurts so much and I need no man in my life anymore.BENCHAMAST'S THE 5FLOWERSMY 14 YRS. OLD DAUGHTER, NAHREESUNMY 5 YRS. OLD SON, NICHOLASMY 1 YR. OLD BABY GIRL, MAYKHANTHALIONEL A.R. P. THE LITTLE PRINCE

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