My BUCKEYE'S OF COURSE...CHOPPERS...
THAT'S MY COUSIN AND TWO OF HIS BIKES..This is where I want to Be........................................
You Are Italian Food
Comforting yet overwhelming.
People love you, but sometimes you're just too much.
What Kind of Food Are You?
I'd like to meet:
And these are the People that I would like to meet someday, well besides yourself of course....Interesting People... Pretty much anyone ............................................................
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You can Ask me anything, and I will most likely tell you what I know or what I think honestly ............................................................
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.......................................Not that I am looking for one on here but My friend sent me this and It is very interesting.................................................
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........FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov
Heller, M.A.When it comes to making the decision about choosing
a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet,
with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that
many are making serious mistakes in their approach to
finding Mr./Miss. Right!If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're
getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I
believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when
they date. Choosing a life partner should never be
based on love.Though this ma y sound "not politically correct",
there's a profound truth here.Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather,
love is the result of a good marriage. When the other
ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me
say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship
on love alone"; You need a lot more!!!Here are five questions you must ask yourself if
you're serious about finding and keeping a life
partner.QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If
you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time
to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each
other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You
need to share something deeper and more meaningful.
You need a common life purpose.Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow
together, or (2) you can grow apart. 50% of the people
out there are growing apart. To mak e a marriage work,
you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom
line; and marry someone who wants the same thing.QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings
and thoughts with this person?This question goes to the core of the quality of your
relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate
openly with this person. The basis of having good
communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get
"punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts
and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive
person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express
your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on
this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the
person you plan to marry.QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive
person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions.
Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis?
Are they serious ab out improving themselves? A teacher
of mine defines a good person as "someone who is
always
striving to be good and do the right ";. So ask about
your significant other:What do they do with their
time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a
materialistic person is not someone whose top priority
is character refinement.There are essentially two types of people in the
world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth
and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort.
Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will
put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing.
You need to know that before walking down the aisle.QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?The one most important thing that makes any
relationship work is the ability to give. By giving,
we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to
others or are they wrapped up i n themselves and self-
absorbed? To measure this, think about the following:
How do they treat people whom they do not have to be
nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers,
etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do
they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't
have gratitude for the people who have given them
everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You
can be sure that someone who treats others poorly,
will eventually treat you poorly as well.QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change
about this person after we're married?Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone
with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after
they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You
can probably expect someone to change after marriage
for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person
the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry
them.In conclusion, d ating doesn't have to be difficult and
treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more
with your head and less with your heart.It pays to be as objective as possible when you are
dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you
get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great
feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your
finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble
because you didn't do your homework.Another perspective...There are some people in your life that need to be
loved from a distance..
It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go
of or at least minimize your time with draining,
negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere
relationships. Observe the relationships around you.Pay attention..
Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones
encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on
a path of growth uphill and which ones are going
downhill? When you leave c ertain people do you feel
better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or
don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of
mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will
become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front
row and who should be moved to the balcony of your
life.An African proverb states, "Before you get married,
keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one
eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to
someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,
ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem
make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open,
and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or
that what you see as faults aren't really that
important.Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you
compliment and compromise with each other, or do you
compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the
relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past
hurt, past mistrust, past pain?You can't take someone to the altar to alter them.
You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment,
and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone
else responsible for your happiness or responsible for
your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the
wrong reasons to be in a relationship.WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call,
touch, notes, etc.)
8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING
INSECURE
10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND
ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENTIf these qualities are missing, the relationship will
erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and
dishonesty; and pain will replace it.Ask me and I will most likely tell you what I know or what I think...
Music:
Bob Marley, Jack Johnson, DMB, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Led Zeppelin, Ben Harper, John Mayer, Jimi Hendrix, Robert Randolph & the Family Band, Lynyrd Skynyrd, Pearl Jam, Alice In Chains, STP, White Stripes, Black Sabbath, TOOL, A Perfect Circle, Johnny Cash, Norah Jones(Mmm.. Mmm..), RedMan, OutKast, Jay-Z, Ludacris, B.I.G. , Common, Nelly, Mos Def, The Roots, Jimmy Buffett, Willie Nelson, The Allman Brother's band, Rage Against the Machine, AudioSlave, B.B. King, Albert King, Eric Clapton, Muddy Waters, Buddy Guy, John Lee Hooker, Robert Johnson, Keb Mo, Taj Mahal, Warren Haynes, Gov't Mule, The Rolling Stones(not the Beatles.... overated), The Black Crowes, Dispatch, Santana, Los Lonely Boys, G. Love, Howie Day, Marvin Gaye, Maxwell, Otis Redding, Mofro, Neil Young, O.A.R. , Weezer, U2, Incubus, Ryan Adams, Whiskeytown, Damien Rice, The Police, Pink Floyd, Ray Charles, Van Morrison, Rusted Root, Susan Tedeschi, Sublime, Paul Simon, ColdPlay, Superwolf, Bonnie "Prince" Billy, Bob Dylan, The Band, The Beastie Boys, Barenaked Ladies, Tim Reynolds, Bela Fleck, Trey Anastasio,.... Tired of typing...Oh and I want this someday...
Movies:
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Dumb and Dumber, The Wedding Crashers!!, Lord Of the Rings, Matrix, Rounders, Blow, Desperado, Tombstone, Jay & Silent Bob Strike Back, Billy Madison, Happy Gilmore, Waterboy, Anger Management, 50 first Dates, Big Daddy, Friday, Garden State, Spaceballs, As Good As it Gets, Alfie, Harlem Nights, Star Wars, Smokey & the Bandit, Lost in Translation, Stripes, Groundhog Day, Kingpin, What about Bob?, Quick Change (UNDERATED!!), Caddyshack I and II, National Lampoons-Christmas-American-Vegas-European Vacation's, Tin Cup, White Men Can't Jump, Dead Poets Society, Hoosiers, The Rookie, Swingers, Closer, The Professional, The Legend of Bagger Vance, Good Will Hunting, Dazed and Confused, Something About Mary, Goodfellas, Old School, Austin Powers I II III, Elf, A Christmas Story, AnchorMan, There are a lot more as well... I also like Foreign films and Independent film...etc.....
Television:
which Friends character are you?
you're chandler...when you're around there's never a quiet moment and no one is safe from your sarcasm.
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ESPN, Music TV, Sports, 70's Show, Cribs, Cathouse, I don't watch much TV....
Books:
Catch A Fire: The Bob Marley Story, Couldn't Stand the Weather: SRV, but I don't read very often bc I just fall asleep... Whatever..
Heroes:
My Mom, Grandparents, friends, and Myself........"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have live. This is to have succeeded." Ralph Waldo Emerson
