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What is The Work?The Work is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches you to identify and question the stressful thoughts that cause all the suffering in the world. It's a way to understand what's hurting you, a way to end all your stress and suffering.People who do The Work faithfully report life-changing results.Eliminate stress: Live without anxiety or fear Improve relationships: Have a new sense of connection and intimacy with your husband or wife, your parents, your children, and with yourself Reduce anger: Get angry less often and less intensely, and eventually not at all Eliminate depression: See perfection in situations that were once debilitating Clarity: Act more intelligently and effectively Energy: Experience a new sense of vigor and well-being Peace: Learn how to love what is, and find lasting inner peace Judge Your NeighborFor thousands of years we’ve been told not to judge, but we still do it all the time—how our friends should act, whom our children should care about, what our parents should feel, do, or say. In The Work, rather than suppress these judgments, we use them as starting points for self-realization. By letting the judging mind have its life on paper, we discover through the mirror of those around us what we haven't yet realized about ourselves.Fill in a Judge-Your-Neighbor worksheet. You can download one here, or simply use this online version [below]:The Judge-Your-Neighbor WorksheetFill in the blanks below, using short, simple sentences. Don’t censor yourself; don’t be wise or “spiritual.” Take this opportunity to express your negative feelings on paper.1. Who angers, irritates, saddens, or frustrates you, and why? I am ________________ at ________________ because ____________________________________ Example: I am angry at Paul because he doesn’t listen to me, he doesn’t appreciate me, he argues with everything I say.2. How do you want them to change? What do you want them to do? I want ________________ to __________ __________________________________. Example: I want Paul to see that he is wrong. I want him to apologize.3. What is it that they should or shouldn't do, be, think, or feel? What advice could you offer? ________________ should/shouldn't _________________________________. Example: Paul should take better care of himself. He shouldn’t argue with me.4. Do you need anything from them? What do they need to do in order for you to be happy? I need ________________ to ___________________ ___________________________________. Example: I need Paul to hear me and respect me.5. What do you think of them? Make a list. ________________ is _______________________ ___________________________________. Example: Paul is unfair, arrogant, loud, dishonest, way out of line, and unconscious.6. What is it that you don't want to experience with that person again? I don't ever want to ______________________________ ___________________________________. Example: I don’t ever want to feel unappreciated by Paul again. I don’t ever want to see him smoking and ruining his health again.The Four QuestionsInvestigate each of your statements from the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet using the four questions and the turnaround below. The Work is meditation. It’s about awareness, not about trying to change your thoughts. Ask the questions, then take your time, go inside, and wait for the deeper answers to surface. Use the blue sheet below as a facilitation guide. (You can download the bluesheet here).In its most basic form, The Work consists of four questions and a turnaround. For example, the first thought that you might question on the above Worksheet is "Paul doesn't listen to me." Find someone in your life about whom you have had that thought, and let's do The Work. "[Name] doesn't listen to me":Is it true?Can you absolutely know that it's true?How do you react when you think that thought?Who would you be without the thought?Then turn it around, and don't forget to find three genuine examples of each turnaround.www.byronkatie.com www.thework.com www.thework.org