Anyone who understands, and believes, this...it is from one of my blogs..."The most puzzling thing to me, about being human, is having emotions. Actually, I know that animals have emotions too, but, what I am getting at here is the amount of cognition that we give in concideration of, or ignorance of for that matter, when we express our emotions. In other words, do we really spend enough time thinking about why we feel the way we do in regards to what is going on in our lives? Or do we spend too much time thinking about them?"It has been my experience that when people experience an emotion concerning something that is going on in their life they label the occurence as being either 'good' or 'bad'. If this 'occurrance' is something positive, we tend to want to have whatever it is that makes us feel good, last as long as possible. But, when it is something negative, or not beneficial, to us we tend to want to sweep our emotions under the rug, or displace them upon someone, or something, else. Instead of dealing with them 'head-on', we tend to want to hide from having to deal with them at all. What I propose we should be doing is take responsibility for having those emotions in the first place - that is, to face them, and conquer them by trying to understand them."Emotionas are, indeed something very REAL to us. We can no sooner ignore them than we can the Light of Day."Having emotions makes Life, and living, a 'Learning Experience'. I say this because when something happens to us, we pretty much slap one of two labels on it..'Good' or 'Bad', or 'Right' or 'Wrong'. What we need to do is to take a closer look not at what happened, but, at what our reaction was to it in the first place. Then we need to take a look at why we reacted the way we did. By doing this we come to understand ourselves a whole lot more. If we are willing to take responsibility for having the emotions we experience, then we can become more accepting of others, and of Life itself."The best thing for us to do, is to place ourselves in environments, and around people, that promote this kind of 'Self-Awareness'."So, ask yourself this, who in your life is really concerned with helping you learn more about who you might really be for your own sake? If they are concerned for you, and I do mean genuinely, what they feel for you, they pretty well see that in themselves already, and they are trying to get you to the same level of self -awareness. If they aren't that concerned for you, then they would, just as much, politely say 'Oh, go ahead, as long as you are happy.' The former, those who are really concerned for you, will tell you how they feel about what it is you're doing, then explain why...whether they agree with you, or not. The funny thing here is that those that may not agree with you, and have explained their reasons, actually care about you more because what they are saying comes from a deeper level of consideration and compassion, than just wishing you well as you go on your way."In other words, those that really care about you, have the courage to be honest with you. Those that don't, will tell you what they think you want to hear, and will try to buy your time, and attention, by constantly promoting those things that, while on the surface look great, won't have a long term effect that promotes your happiness and well being."So, ask yourselves, who really is looking out for you?"