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I'm updating Melinda's page to let you all know that sometime early on the morning of Tuesday, March 24th, my lovely, beautiful wife Melinda passed from this world.
That morning when my mom went to wake her up she found her with the most calm, serene look on her face. She was in no pain and was not scared to die.
Over the past few day much of her family had come here to visit her and last night the last few people including her sister & nephew came and she spent all night talking about the past with them and having a good time. Before we put her to bed she sat and watched our baby dog Hendrix run around and play, then I tucked her into bed and made her comfortable.
She had expressed over the last week or so that she was very tired of going through what she was having to go through and just wanted to stop trying. We fought hard and tried a lot of new experimental treatments and such, but her movement, breathing and overall comfort had declined much in the past few weeks. We talked many times about her actually passing and she was very clear about the fact that she wasn't scared at all... she just wished it hadn't happned now, when she still had so many things to do. But whatever your belief is, SHE believed as do I that our bodies are just vessels... shells for our souls... and that we go on after we leave this level of existence. I know she's gone on to something better... someplace better... and she can breathe, walk, talk & feel perfectly now.
I will talk to most of you very soon as I start making calls... please keep sending positive thoughts, feelings & vibes towards Melinda... she will know now more than ever how much you all loved and cared for her.
Thank you all for being a part of her life.
Melinda AnneLandis Whedon (July 24, 1978 - March 24, 2009) Rest In Peace.
Justin Lake Whedon (March 25, 2009)
Before reading any of this. I wrote my profile below years ago and haven't updated it sense, so I'm not sure how relative any of it still is. Someday here I'll take a moment to go over this account and make some changes or just delete it all together. I don't know. We'll see. For the moment it'll stay incase any old friends track me down cuz I always like that. Cheers 10/20/08
About me....hmmmm, lets see. Well, I'm a rockstar. Just thought I'd let you know. I love my music, go to www.ebonmusic.com to see if you love it too. I also love the few friends I have and would love to have a lot more, and when I get hugely famous I WILL remember the little people. :)
I believe in the power of choice. I believe that as children we may be a victim of circumstance but as adults we choose to stay victims. I believe in myself. I look forward to the day where I can be entirely transparent and not give two shits of the consiquenses. I am brutallly honest, typically when I forget these consiquenses. I am one of the most nonjudemental people you'll meet and regulary forget the world doesn't offer me the same back to me in return. Even so, I have many secrets. I used to have many demons. I love finally being in a place in my life where I have the time, maturity and tools I need to be able to work on turning the rest of those demons into simply secrets.
I wish I had more friends. If it weren't for my husband and my one best friend who doesn't even live in the same state as me I would be very lonely.
I don't have time to go out right now and as a result I'm constantly surrounded by people I have nothing in common with.
I abhore
materialism
close-mindness
sheep (not the fuzzy cute ones, the fake titties ones and the ones in suits and ties just to name a few)
indifference
racism
rich people who don't do anything to help the world
even more filthy rich celbrities that have charity benefits and act like out of the hundereds of them that attended it should be celebrated that they raised 10,000 for an aids benefit when that's barely pocket change for even one of their multi million dollar a year incomes.
radio stations, at least any of the ones that are aired in behind the times kansas
designer clothes, only because of the shallowness that allows people to justify spending that amount of money on something so unimportant, but I love how they look. Fortunately I'm pretty good at pulling off looking fabulous with thrift stores and Gordmans which is a talent I take an immense amount of pride in.
Diamonds. Don't buy them. The blood of Africa is on every single one. The money hungry company that tells you that it's "conflict free" could give two fucking shits about the brainwashed child soldiers and exploited bleeding country of Africa and they will tell you anything they comfort themselves with believing to make a sale. Anyone worked in sales? You know how it works.
Enough of what I hate....
Nothing in the world heals me and inspires me like dancing does.
I have truelly the most patient, brillient, loyal, talented and incredible man in the world as my husband. He has seen me at my ugliest and refused to let go and for that I will love him forever
I am baby hungry. I can't wait for the day when I get to be a mommy. That day is still five years away. I'm adopting a baby girl when I turn 33 and another baby girl when I turn 35. I've got it all planned out. If I end up being even more financially free then I plan to be, less exhausted then I probably will be, and as spiritually fit as I know I will be, after those girls are almost raised, I might adopt some older children as well because nobody ever wants those orphans and children and teenagers need mommies just as much as babies do.
I have a major problem with run on sentences. I really suck at spelling although I used to be really good at it until I quit reading about age 15. I plan to start reading again as there is so much stuff I want to educate myself in and TV is sucking my brain dry and I want top put a stop to that.
I talk way to much. Non stop. I have a hard time thinking something and not saying it out loud. I think it goes hand in hand with my run on sentences. I find myself talking over people and interupting them which is so not cool so if I ever do it to you tell me to shut the fuck up and let you talk.
I sing over my music because it's fun and I love the music I write so much that there is no way I'm not going to sing over it, although I really wasn't born to sing, I was born to dance. But, I've decided to do everything I can to get much better at it, so you can anticipate my improvement.
The dandies rule.
Depech mode has always ruled.
Ebon also rules and soon the world will know that.
I'm a night person. I have trouble sleeping at night and sleep like a baby during the day. Someday soon, this won't matter, because again, I will work for myself.
I am technologically challenged because for 10 years I've lived with my computer geek husband who spoils me rotten which I take full advantage of. I justify this entirely on having had nobody take care of me for the first 19 years I was alive before I met him.
Mexican gangsters in wife beaters and tattoos turn me on.
Asian girls are so cute I want to eat them like a box of chocalates.
Although I'm not gay, a naked women turns me on more then a naked man. The difference between me and a lesbian is after looking at the naked woman, I want to ignore her and go sleep with a man. (Wellllllll.....some slight participation on her part might be okay.... :) )
I laugh really, really, loud.
I am overdramatic to a fault.
I want to save the world. Someday I will help Africa. I want to kill child molesters. I am embarrassed of my government but grateful to be born in America. I want to rescue every child sex slave in every brothel in Cambodia, along with any other victimized children in the world.
Someday I will do amazing things to help stop poverty and ignorance in the world.
to be continued....I must sleep. Or atleast try too.
