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simon said and i found to be true....
human relationships and interaction seem to be based on what we 'do' together and where the interests in 'doing' overlap is where we meet our friends.
so even though, we're saying 'be together' it really is 'do together' because we're drinking together, fucking together, traveling together, taking drugs together, watching movies together, but we're not so much interested in 'being together' because that would actually mean having to let go of learned behavioural patterns and programs or, if you want to put it that way, ourselves in order to be fully present with another person, which seems much too complicated to even try.
wether it is a friendship or a romatic relationship, it seems like we're always looking for something in somebody else that we can relate to or recognise ourselves in. it is always about our self in the first place. a hole that we want another person to fill, a role model, an admirer, a victim. somebody who produces a certain feeling in us.
we also fail to do something as simple as listening to another person, because we constantly compare what we know against what we hear or judge what is said based on the experience we have made on whatever the subject.
or we agree, or disagree... or often even think about something different entirely. because the most precious thing we know, the me, the i, the ego, doesn't allow us to be put aside. not even for the briefest moment of compassion or genuine interest. why is that?
because it has to keep up the make-believe show that demonstrates to the 'outside world' who 'we are'. so basically, we are living in a constant state of separation. there's a very distinctive demarcation line between us and every other human being. installed by us in order to make sure, beyond any doubt, that we are percieved as unique and we almost never show our true selves.
we rather present an image, a self-projection, what we want other people to see in us because we hope to therefore be interesting or special or rewarded with attention which we so desperately need to feed said egos. because that's what we all want, don't we? we want to be recognised, to be loved... and rightly so. at the same time though it seems almost impossible for us to give genuine love to somebody else freely, because we are concerned that we're not getting back what we put into it. that we end up investing emotions and not getting an equal payback.
things like friendship are measured by the amount of times we are called, the presents we get, how often we are invited, etc.
based on these facts we make decsions how often we call somebody, buy them presents, invite people. it's like a business.
and at the same time it is a perfect means to keep us constantly unhappy because of course nobody will ever be able to permanently live up to our needs and standards and expectations. that's another huge thing: expectations. ...........
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