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Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff

EMBRACE your demons... lest they come around and BITE you on your Bum!

About Me


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This Quiz Says I'm From Mercury
It goes on to say that, "You are talkative, clever, and knowledgeable - and it shows. You probably never leave home without your cell phone! You're witty, expressive, and aware of everything going on around you. You love learning, playing, and taking in all of what life has to offer. Be careful not to talk your friends' ears off, and temper your need to know everything." What Planet Are You From?
HI, I'm Daryl. I'm a single, gay man, just out of a LTR of over 15 years. I enjoy music and dancing, hanging out with my friends, and movies! I'm 39 years old, but i look younger. :-)
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Ok... so my relatives talk about those in my family who are the lost sheep... and there are those in my family who were the black sheep. Well kiddies... i was worse! I admit it, I am the...
I'm the one... who after i came out, got a Christmas card from an aunt... saying "Merry Christmas... and be careful, anal sex will give you hemorrhoids" Yeah... wasn't that JUST a box of Christmas cheer! Sheesh!!
Just remember... and repeat this to yourself every time someone gives you a funny look, or a hard time. "They are the ones with the problem. I am just fine." Then go on with your life... discovering yourself and having a good time. That is what life is about!
If you find that the above does not help. Talk to someone... call the Trevor Helpline... email a friend... shit... email me!! Remember... Death is permanant! Everthing else is a temp. condition. Gay kids who are killing themselves because of who they are... make me cry. Everyone... go to this site for help... to give or recieve! Learn to accept and love yourself... If I can do it... anyone can... trust me! Click on this link for an important public anouncement!
Also... if you havn't seen the film yet... do so... it's cute... and well done. Ok, so I'm a bitofadork... I admit it... get over it... i have... lol
I'm also known as dutchboy. I moved to Mpls On New Years Eve Day 2007!
I have a little blue car, great on gas and a kick ass stereo system!! If you see my blue car "Leon the Neon" fly by and u see my plates [PRESERV], don't be afraid to wave! I'm a decent guy! I promise to give you back more than ONE finger...:-)
A bit more about me... I am a graduate of VCSU, with a B.S. in Human Resourse Management (Human Service Track)and a double minor in Psychology and Sociology. I also have a Two Year Degree from Minot State University in Developmental Disabilities. I love writing, and did so for our small town newspaper for years. I have a HUGE interest in Anthropology and hope to get my masters in Psychological Anthropology in the near future.
I enjoy the outdoors and you will often find me out camping all summer. I am all about "Camping"... both kinds... the gay kind... and with a tent! Hmmm... come to think of it, both catigories are not so mutually exclusive if i recall my boy scout days clearly!
(OK... just kidding... i wasn't in the scouts... but DID play with some other boys in a tent... ah... the memeories!) I also love to swim, scuba dive, sail, canoe... and most water sports!
(ahem... behave... ;-)) Lets just say i consider myself "well rounded." There's more to me than just being gay.
Oh.. and did i mention i want my own Lama! They Rock!

I just recently moved from Fargo, where I worked with folks with Mental Illness and Developmental Disabilities. (If you think you'd enjoy a similar type of job, even if you don't have any experience feel free to check out RRHSF! )I loved that job and all my clients. They gave me grey hair and kept me young... never a dull moment with this lot! lol I love them a LOT! And miss them a ton! I am currently working in my social work field... because i'm good at it... and I enjoy helping people help themselves...
In my "extra special free time" In the past, i've volunteered for several organizations around the state of North Dakota. I did 5 years as a member of our local city council. I helped save several historic buildings in town; Including a Stone Church,Rectory, Barn and a 1916 Brick High School. This project won a National Trust Honor Award in 1999. Stone and Brick masonry, painting, shingling and other "handy" skills have unfortunately become some of my hobbies. ;-)
I enjoy music (both playing and listening), creative writing, movies, talking, napping, dogs, pizza, trying new foods, Diet Coke, singing, dancing and the outdoors; not necessarily in that order, and usually not all at once. Oh... and i have my right nipple pierced... a 25th birthday present! Ouch!
I am interested in many things... looking for friends... I enjoy chatting .., so If you think we'd hit it off, drop me a note, I'd be happy to talk with u.
I am gay; not Bi or questioning... I had my first gay sexual experience at the age of 12, and many thereafter. I've known I was gay since 11th grade when I realized that i was NOT bi... and I wouldn't "just find the right girl". Lets face it, i tried... and with girls... it was like shootin' pool with a rope. :-) From that point on... i knew what i wanted... Boys who Love boys! Physically, I'm into younger guys, smooth and dark skin a plus, tho not absolutely needed... otherwise emotionally, I enjoy guys who are relaxed, fun and enjoy laughing. People who are civic minded, or at least care about more than just themselves and their wardrobe. (Don't get me wrong, a kickin' outfit really rocks! But its not the end all be all of life.)
I love movies, and have a substantial gay themed movie collection. Some of which are listed below...
Breakfast is the most important meal of the day!!
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What kind of drunk are you?
Affectionate Drunk
When you go out, you're all over everyone that you meet. It's possible that you're reserved when you're sober, but get a little wine in you and you're behaving as though perfect strangers are your oldest friends. Your friends probably think you're high-maintenance.

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You're an Passionate Kisser
For you, kissing is about all about following your urges
If someone's hot, you'll go in for the kiss - end of story
You can keep any relationship hot with your steamy kisses
A total spark plug - your kisses are bound to get you in trouble What Kind of Kisser Are You?
I have a huge interest in Asian cultures.

My Japanese Name Is...
Haru Kato What's your Japanese Name?
I'm a member of the Long Yang Club. What is the LYC? Click the following link and you will find out!

In a nut shell... It is an organization catering to gay Asians and interested non-Asians. It aims to provide a friendly and supportive environment in the areas where it operates, chiefly through a program of social events and other activities. It is named after "Lord Long Yang" who was a gay character in the Chinese book of legends, "Dream of Red Mansions".

I believe in Human Rights... follow this link to learn more!

I'd like to meet:

Ok... i'd LOVE to meet: Bob and Larry from the Veggie Tales! (I love both Bob the Tomato and Larry the cuke (No Cucumber jokes please!! LOL); but I have a HUGE crush on Bob! LOL
I'd also LOVE to meet Mario Lopez!
His appearance on Nip/Tuck took my breath away!) I also would enjoy meeting Bjork (ahem... pronounced B-yerk), Grant Imahara, Tony Jaa, Asanee (Art)Suwan, James Duval, Darryl Stephens Whoopie Goldberg, Margaret Cho, Jai Rodriguez of Queer Eye, Jet Li ; and I'd love to meet Ty, Dorris and Nate of Girlyman, B.D. Wong, Harvey Fierstein, Dustin Nguyen who i've been in love with since 21 Jump Street, Shin Koyamada from the Last Samurai, and Macaulay Culkin
Other than this... In REAL life... I'd like to get to know people of all types and persuasions! Enjoy talking to people of similar interests, and different as well. People who are open minded and have a sense of humor... and are ok with diversity. Is this too much to ask for? I think not!
Finally... there are many good people out there who have issues with young people. Please... please go to this site... get help... so you don't hurt anyone.

“Minnesota is one of the first states in the nation to lead a trailblazing effort to prevent child sexual abuse by building a movement of concerned citizens, community by community.” —Rodney Hammond, PhD

Music:

My buddy shakin his bon bon!
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Movies:

Trevor, Beautiful Boxer, Ethen Mao, Under One Roof, Hero (2002), Metrosexuality, Kiss of the Dragon, ET (I laughed... I cryed... it moved me Bob!), Unleashed, Latter Days, The Last Samauri, Never Again, STAR WARS(all of 'em tho the origional is prob my fave), The One, Star Trek (all), Romeo Must Die, X-Men(both), Harry Potter (all), The Fantastic Four, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, Eating Out, All Over the Guy; I also enjoy most Yaoi esp. Descendants of Darkness , And Anime of any kind rocks!! Anyone else remember Battle of the Planets?! Way cool early anime cartoon. I watched it Utah! I also love Torch Song Trilogy, Just One Time, Margaret Cho (Everything she's done including It's My Party!), The Emperor's New Groove, Some Like it Hot, Kate Hepburn Movies (ie: Holiday, Guess Who's Coming To Dinner, The Lion in Winter, Pat and Mike), Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, Ghostbusters, All those old Godzilla Movies... plus the new one with Mathew Broderek.
Oh god... lots and lots of films!!!! I Love movies!!! Right now Netflix is my best friend!! Living in small town MN, its tuff to rent and return on time... plus they have TONS of gay titles i can't get locally! Go to MY NETFLIX PAGE to see more of my faves!

Television:

The Independent Film Channel, MythBusters, The Daily Show with John Stewart; Queer as Folk, Gilligan's Island, 6 Feet Under, Will and Grace, All American Girl and 21 Jump Street, Ab Fab, Are You Being Served and many many other British Comedys! I love Law and Order... and am a CSI junkie!!! I also enjoy the History Channel, and TLC.
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Oh...and i'm strangely drawn to E and Home and Garden Network. (who'd a thunk it!?)
And Queer Duck is a hoot!

Books:

Almost anything by David Sedaris. I also love everything written by Dean Koontz, tho my fave would have to be "By The Light of The Moon"; The Persian Boy by Mary Renault (all about Alexander the Great from the prospective of his boytoy!); A Density of Souls and other books the author Christopher Rice (gay son of Anne Rice) ; the Stephanie Plum novels; The Belgariad series By David Eddings; On Being Gay by Brian McNaught ; Like People in History; The Little House on the Prairie books; the Hardy Boys books; The Dog that Wouldn't be by Farley Mowatt. Its not a book, but I also LOVE GET FUZZY

Heroes:

People who say what they feel is right, fair and true.
What follows is my current favorite gay quote:
"Straight Americans need... an education of the heart and soul. They must understand - to begin with - how it can feel to spend years denying your own deepest truths, to sit silently through classes, meals, and church services while people you love toss off remarks that brutalize your soul." ~Bruce Bawer, The Advocate, 28 April 1998
I look up to a few specific people... I think Grant Imahara rocks! He was involved with the Star Wars Movies... created a robot that beat the shit out of other robots, and is the smartest guy on Mythbusters. He manages all of this while still being mild manered and looking adorable! He's the computer geek, who went on to show all the jocks and jerks that having brains is not such a bad thing. Others... well there's Whoopie Goldberg, Jett Li, Alex Sanches , Margaret Cho, Andy Bell, Rufus Wainwright and B.D. Wong! If you are interested in why... just ask. :-)
Feel free to message me on Yahoo; i'm dutchboydvh

My Blog

Life in the Big City!

Dear Friends, Well i'm here in Minneapolis! The good news is that I like my roommates, and the house i'm living in is wonderful! Its nice to be close to most of my friends, and i'm loving all of this...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Thu, 11 Jan 2007 08:31:00 PST

Happy New Year My Dear Friends!!

The end of the year is also the end of my time in Bemdiji.  I will be leaving tonight if all goes well... tomorrow morning if i'm running slow. Once you see me offline today it may be a few days ...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sat, 30 Dec 2006 12:58:00 PST

My apartment is for rent...

If u are in Bemidji... or moving here in the new year... my apartment will be avaliable as of 1/1/07.Basement Apartment For Rent. 1 Bedroom, full kitchen, egress windows, washer/drier and private entr...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sat, 16 Dec 2006 05:30:00 PST

Life is a journey...

This blog was inspired by my new friend Richard.  He wondered why people keep asking him if he's single.  He blogged that this question was beginning to annoy him.  "As if it was anyone...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sun, 03 Sep 2006 05:56:00 PST

"When Someone You Love Is Depressed", by Betsy Sansby

Friends, I thought this was a great article! It really lays things out in an easy to understand way.  Check it out! hugs, Dar *************** Yesterday I saw a woman who was referred to me by he...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sun, 27 Aug 2006 04:37:00 PST

Livin' in the Batcave

Ok... you are NOT going to believe this... but I've been getting visits from the local nocturnal wildlife.  Yup... Im now living in the bat cave!   It all started about a week and a ha...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sat, 19 Aug 2006 01:30:00 PST

How Heavy is a Glass of Water?

I recieved this a few months ago, and thought... wow... that's a neat way of looking at Stress.  I want to pass this on.  So... this is not my piece, but well worth sharing with those i lov...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sun, 04 Jun 2006 09:26:00 PST

humph!

Ok... so this sweet guy asks me to grab a bite and watch a movie with him.  Just as friends... which is way cool!  He seems nice and funny and really well rounded.  So that's the good ...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sun, 04 Jun 2006 07:39:00 PST

Here I am... Part II

Well here i sit.  Last night Chad (My Bro-in-Law) moved my stuff into my new flat.  It's a basement apartment just off the Bemidji State College campus.  Its in a nice house, bungalo or...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sun, 28 May 2006 07:25:00 PST

So... here I am...

Mannie just fell asleep to Classical Baby and i've got it playing in the background; Wendi and Chad are still out.  I wasn't able to find anyone around Bemidji to spend time with tonight, so i&nb...
Posted by Daryl a.k.a. Hotstuff on Sun, 05 Mar 2006 08:11:00 PST