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We all want the lives of our kids to be better than our own. Many things can go wrong in child raising. The least we can do is set the stage right. That means:
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Learning the difference between infatuation and true love.
Choosing the right mate, one who will be there for the long haul.
Being mature enough to work on a relationship through the rough and the
smooth.
Getting an education and income enough to support a family.
Finding and affording a place of one's own to live.
Having children only when all these items are in place.
These days most people find this checklist complete when they are in their late twenties. For most of human history the checklist was complete when people were in their late teens.
A decade before they should have children, guys want sex and girls want love. Our society is having a hard time accepting this. We need to do a better job of teaching young folk how to manage their sexuality during these years.
For those who can't wait:
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pull-out sex is not a reliable method of birth control
fresh sperm getting into the vagina by any means can cause pregnancy
pre-cum can contain sperm if stimulation has gone on for a while
enough sperm can remain in the urethra after ejaculation to cause
pregnancy
sperm can last inside a female for up to 5 days
an intact hymen does not stop sperm getting to the egg
female fertility starts increasing at the end of menstruation
female fertility peaks at ovulation, which is usually 14 days before the next
menstruation
female fertility decreases rapidly after ovulation
female libido peaks at ovulation - most likely to want sex when most
fertile
a condom is the best choice of birth control for occasional sex
for extra safety, use the condom in combination with vaginal spermicide
or avoidance of the fertile window
using a condom effectively is not as easy as it sounds - just getting it
on the right way up is a good start
condoms do come in different sizes, if necessary
condoms have a use-by date, and should not be carried around in a
billfold for months
condoms should be put on a fully erect penis with foreskin back and
enough slack at the end to accommodate the cum
the slack at the end should not have an air bubble in it, which could pop
when withdrawing, hold the condom on the penis so both come out together
hormone methods of controlling fertility work well if the user is not
forgetful, and can tolerate any side effects
the Depo 3-month shot is highly effective, but the side effects can be
troubling
in the event of an accident, PlanB emergency hormone contraceptive is
available at the pharmacy for anyone over 18
the sooner PlanB is used after an accident, the better. It's
effectiveness declines over the next 120 hours
PlanB has side effects that can mimic pregnancy. Check its success by
taking a pregnancy test a week after menstruation was due
unprotected sex in prime time has a 30% chance of causing pregnancy in
any month
For those who did not take care enough:
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gestation takes 38 weeks, though it is normally figured as 40 weeks from
the beginning of the last menstruation
an easy way of figuring the due date is to add 9 calendar months and one
week to the first day of the last menstruation
the first signs of pregnancy can start a week after ovulation, or a week
before the next menstruation is due
many signs of pregnancy are similar to signs of oncoming menstruation,
with variation in intensity, timing, and type
a missing or unusually light period following prime time
sexual exposure is a good reason to suspect pregnancy
common early signs of pregnancy include unusual
tiredness, more frequent urination, lotion discharge, appetite change, weird
early cramps (too many situps, a tugging feeling), implantation spotting
(pink and brown when wiping)
other signs include changes of gut function , including
heartburn, bloating, gassiness either end, diarrhea, constipation, shortness
of breath, and even hiccups
changes in smells (esp. tobacco smoke, perfumes, fried
foods), favorite foods, occasional nauseous feelings
vascular changes, more noticeable veins on breasts,
flushing of the cheeks, bluish tinge of vagina (Chadwick's sign), occasional
dizzy moments
breast signs including aching and heavier feeling
breasts, more sensitive nipples, more prominent Montgomery tubercles (bumps
on areola)
headaches, backache in lower back, emotional (cries for
no reason), vivid dreams, acne
Delayed ovulation and menstruation can be caused by a number of other reasons, including stress, medications, sickness, and worry. False signs of pregnancy can be caused by hormonal disturbances, ovarian cysts, or chemical pregnancy. A couple of positive pregnancy tests are decisive.
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