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"The heart is a fragile thing. That's why we lock them up so fiercely, give them away so rarely and why it matters so much when we do. Some hearts are so pure, like crystal in a world of glass, that even the way they shatter is beautiful."
- unknown
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth."
- Oscar Wilde, author
5 - the Observer
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you chose BZ - your Enneagram type is FIVE (aka "The Thinker").
"I need to understand the world"
Observers have a need for knowledge and are introverted, curious, analytical, and insightful.
How to Get Along with Me
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Be independent, not clingy.Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that
I am feeling uncomfortable.Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your
sincerity.If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because
it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.don't come on like a bulldozer.Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music,
overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.
What I Like About Being a FIVE
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standing back and viewing life objectivelycoming to a thorough understanding; perceiving causes and effectsmy sense of integrity: doing what I think is right and not being influenced by social pressurenot being caught up in material possessions and statusbeing calm in a crisis
What's Hard About Being a FIVE
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being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the worldfeeling bad when I act defensive or like a know-it-allbeing pressured to be with people when I don't want to bewatching others with better social skills, but less intelligence or
technical skill, do better professionally
FIVEs as Children Often
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spend a lot of time alone reading, making collections, and so onhave a few special friends rather than manyare very bright and curious and do well in schoolhave independent minds and often question their parents and teacherswatch events from a detached point of view, gathering informationassume a poker face in order not to look afraidare sensitive; avoid interpersonal conflictfeel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected
FIVEs as Parents
- are often kind, perceptive, and devotedare sometimes authoritarian and demandingmay expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriatemay be intolerant of their children expressing strong emotions
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele
The Enneagram Made Easy
Discover the 9 Types of People
Harper
SanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages