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For years our churches have been fellowshipping. I noticed his mom but not him so much, I only remember him playing on the organ. He didn't notice me as well; we were in our own world and circles. It wasn't until we had dealings with a community choir he noticed me with a mutual friend. So one day he came to my former church for a fellowship service we talked afterwards about different things and started to date for a short while. I broke it off to go back with my ex in 1998. Charles and I kept in touch through Instant Messenger (IM) every now and then. Then in the summer of 2004, I told him I had just given birth to a baby boy, my son was three months old by now. He said he wanted to see me and my son, because he couldn't believe I was finally a mother.
When he came over he instantly connected with my son and vice-versa. He told me that he believed I was the wife for him. I told him that I just had a son and needed to bond with him, I was not ready for a romantic relationship at the time, and I had negative feelings about relationships. The only thing I could offer him at that time was friendship. So he settled for that for a little while because I barely called him, IM, or wanted to go out or wanted him to come over. So we slowly became estranged to one another due to his work hours and my lack of involvement, but we were still IM one another. I had an attitude of I can be a single mother, without a boyfriend or husband for the rest of my life, by the way who needed the drama and hard work of a relationship.
So by the summer of 2005, GOD was dealing with me, healing, and repairing my heart from past events. I had to learn to open my heart. I now felt it was time to start dating again with certain ground rules. So I let Charles know I am ready to start dating, hanging out, and to be open-mined, but by this time he had long work hours, personal issues, and spiritual plateaus to deal with. So I just told him to let me know when you get time we can hang out. He never did tell me.
So around Thanksgiving weekend 2005, he wanted me to attend a planning/board meeting because he was organizing a church. I told him I was not able to attend because I was going to a Family Reunion in Florida that my mom had to speak at.
So once I got back we were able to rekindle the flame and have been going strong since that day.