Steps to Start Wednesday Night Dinners
1. Choose to Actively engage and have fun with Wednesday Night Dinners.
a. This is not a chore – it is a fun environment that is as much about the host/hostesses enjoyment as those who 'show up' and participate
b. Many people have expressed concern over friends gathering on a particular night, that's what it's about. Please feel free to pick any night you want, Wednesday is big because it is in the middle of the week. Gathering with those who choose to come when they can and connect as they are able is a great part of the atmosphere that allows a steady core to form and many others who rotate in and out of the nights provide the excitement as you never know who will show up or when. Once you have been doing this for a while, a natural pattern will emerge where you will never worry about who shows and who doesn't. It only matters that you're there with friends and love, then you choose to share that energy with people who desperatley need for us to come up with solutions to the issues that do not have to plague us if we each choose to do something about it - In the Now!
c. This is about ‘atmosphere’ – the atmosphere created is that of conversation and what people can share. A positive atmosphere that stimulates discussion and ideas that are real and easily doable in your immediate everyday life and community
2. Invite those you would like to attend and at least one person or couple with whom you have had minimal contact but want to know better
a. Invite friends – acquaintances – co-workers – strangers that you have seen here and there – people with a different view then yours or who practice different politics – neighbors – people from your local businesses – people in leagues your kids or you play in – anyone you are comfortable inviting, including those who do think like you
b. rotate houses or make sure the people or person having the event regularly at their home has to do the minimal amount possible to host your dinner
c. switch up and have events at local restaurants, get local chef’s and restaurant owners involved by having them open up their places to dinners and have them help spread the word – you can do a rotating restaurant every week for different flavors and feels to your particular events
3. Send out the dinner theme - a main goal of the dinners is to cook healthy (you decide what that means though we recommend "Healthy," you'll feel better
a. Potato night
b. Italian
c. Thai
d. Green foods night
e. Soul Food night
f. Indian
g. Etc.
4. Please do not go above and beyond what you would do if great friends came over unannounced – just be you to ensure that your evening is enjoyable
a. remember the dinners are a safe-haven for people to feel secure enough to talk about politics, religion, and the hurts that continue to plague us as people – support for each other is key
5. Coordinate/ask people – with those you have invited on what they are bringing – it is a lot of fun and less stress to have people bring whatever they want within the boundaries of the nightly theme
a. ensure that there is enough of a main dish for everyone by having at least two people responsible for making enough of what your average turnout becomes
b. have people bring just one of something unless of course they choose to bring more – it is less of a burden or task if people know they can just bring food or go out and pick-up a bottle of wine or two and show-up
c. check list or form of accountability for what people are bringing - one element for an enjoyable evening
6. make sure essentials are not yours, the hostesses or hosts, sole responsibility
a. essentials include paper plates, paper towels, plastic or preferably items that are environmentally sound and can be reused, recycled, or disposed of organically
7. Question becomes: When do we introduce the 'topic' of the evening for consideration and action?
a. Our suggestion is that the topic is introduced at the beginning of the evening as a sign posted or handed out as a topic on a sheet of paper
b. another thing we did frequently is having little sheets of paper with various words on them as a tone setter for your mind and attitude for the evening(ex. Happiness – hope – gracious, etc.)
8. Conversations – conversations main focus is on getting to know each other better and learn common interests or about something you would like to learn or know – the topic of the evening is a component of the conversation flow and needs to be worked in
9. General Themes for Discussion
a. Earth Friendly Practices
b. Racial Equality/Harmony
c. Healthy Mind/Body
d. Political Activism: Where should this lead us?
e. How can we maintain and expand change on a local - national - international level?
9. Practical Considerations for Discussion
a. How to expand and maintain connections and commitment from Wed. Night Dinners?
b. How to become and maintain our individual ability to be a force for change?
10. Music
a. as always, go with what you feel - mix it up for your guests and for diversity (the theme of life)
11. End of the evening
a. ensure that people do their own dishes with a system for someone(s) to clean common dishes – you can also choose to have those who brought dishes take their own home for cleaning (we like the first way better – but do what you would like)
b. wish everyone a great night and urge those who took pictures to send them to you or to the person who is organizing pictures and/or ideas from the dinner’s discussions
12. After Dinner Activities
a. things we would love to see on the website are pictures from your dinners, ideas from discussion solutions, other dinner ideas and themes, recipes, and anything else you may think of people would love to hear about or see
Cheers & Enjoy Each Other!