REAL TALK!!!Bottom line--if I sleep with a woman I don't know or care about
SEX is NOT going to make me care. (I stopped doing that years ago)
That kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches,
he's through. He ain't sitting around thinking about that spot
that itched or how good it felt scratching it. He's moving on with
his life until that spot itches again and it don't matter which hand
he scratches it with, just as long as he gets rid of the itch.Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind
up getting caught up and wanting us
to romance and wine and dine them
and pretend we're having a "relationship" when it's NOTHING but
a booty call. Come on, ladies, y'all know I'm telling the truth.Unfortunately, ladies, you are part of our problem. You sleep
with us BEFORE you know us or what we're about. Having sex with a man
does not automatically make that a "relationship". Many women
will deny they think like this but I'm speaking from personal
experience. Also, ladies know when their men are fooling around
and still turn a blind eye by getting mad at the other woman. Now,
what kind of sense does that make? Why should that woman make YOU (a
total stranger) a priority in her life? IF HE DID NOT MARRY YOU
HE IS STILL SINGLE. The "other woman" is not breaking up a
"happy home".Many women marry men who were cheating BEFORE they walked down
the aisle and then are SHOCKED
that a fancy wedding dress or an expensive walk down the aisle
didn't change who he was. Why should he change? YOU let him know
it was acceptable by sticking around that long.Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN. Most shady men give
themselves away one way or another, usually before the first 30
days. Women have to stop "rewarding" unfaithful men by
pretending it ain't happening. All of us Black Men (BM) do not cheat. I do
not cheat on my lady so don't buy the hype. I know other
BM who do not but many men WILL cheat if there are NO real
penalties for it.Stop jumping into bed with brothers YOU DON'T KNOW. That means
fewer opportunities for men to cheat. Women have to STOP being
so afraid to ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE
lifestyle. Worry LESS about what kind of job he has and what
kind of car he drives and encourage him to talk about his past,
particularly his past with women. OPEN those ears and listen.
Does he put down his ex-women and blame them for everything? And
don't be so vain. You are NOT a better woman than his last. If he
dogged her out, you will probably be NEXT.Observe him when you are with him. Do you have his home number?
Work number? Have you seen where he lives? Where he works? Is he
secretive? Did you ask if he's married or engaged? How does he
treat other people?
Listen to what he says, NOT what you want to hear. Stop
INTERPRETING the meaning of what he says to fit your purposes.
If he says, "I'm not lookin' for nothing right now" -- DON'T tell
yourself, "Aw, he just scared of getting hurt. I can change his
mind.." NO YOU CAN'T. He said exactly what the hell he meant. BM
don't have to lie when so many BW are already DEAF.If you can't answer BASIC questions about a man DON'T OPEN YOUR
LEGS. I could kinda understand back in the days when sex wouldn't KILL
people but now? there's no excuse and if a BW takes that huge
risk of sleeping with a STRANGER then she better protect herself --
sexually AND emotionally.Show our @ -- to the door if we pressure you for sex too soon.
Don't be afraid to be alone. After you give our @ -- some you will
probably be alone anyway but now you feel like a fool.
In other words, take your time and check us out. if we REALLY
like you, we'll stick around. BUT if you decided to sleep with a man
you hardly know, PROTECT yourself and keep your expectations to
ZERO. We do not owe you a relationship or another date just because
you had sex with us. That's not how it works, baby.I have TOO many female friends who give me horror stories that
could have been avoided if they'd done their homework first OR
moved SLOWER before giving up the panties.
I try as a BM to give them the best advice I can but that won't
mean a doggone thing if BW continue to live in a dream world.
You are TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for your own sexual behavior the same as
I am. Blaming the man won't change a damn thing. BW have to look
in the mirror and take SOME of the blame for what's wrong with
BM/BW relationships. Let me end by saying....SEX DOES NOT = A RELATIONSHIP
GIVING A MAN A READY-MADE FAMILY WILL NOT MAKE HIM COMMIT IF HE
DOESN'T WANT TO
A MAN WILL NOT RESPECT A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT RESPECT HERSELF OR
HER BODY
IF YOU TRADE SEX FOR MATERIAL THINGS YOU ARE PROSTITUTING
YOURSELF
IF HE DOESN'T TAKE CARE OF HIS OTHER CHILDREN WHY WOULD YOU HAVE
A BABY WITH HIM?
IF YOU REWARD A DOG WHY SHOULD MEN STOP BEING DOGS?
BRING MORE TO THE TABLE THAN YOUR BODY. NO YOUR ______ IS NOT
MADE OF GOLD. IT IS ONLY AS GOOD AS I THINK IT IS. BELIEVE THAT.BR
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