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Russell

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About Me

It is fair to say that I have followed a very long, very treacherous road to get where I am today. Most of the detours and bone-jarring bumps have been direct products of my own shortcomings. But I am giving everything that I have, and all that I am to compensate for the past.
I try to be ordinary; just your average Joe. But I’ve got a little more than the average amount of stigma for a gay man. I’m simple, and I have simple needs. But I have high ambition. I am quick to give away my heart, so it is easily broken. I try to be the most loyal of companions. But that also means I am very trusting of others, many times to a fault. I would give my life, or the world, whichever I could for my friends, family and the people I love, whenever they needed it. It’s been hard to find people who I know would do the same, so that’s probably why I hold on so tight to the ones I have.
What else can I say about me? I won't try much to describe myself. I've come to learn that how I perceive who I am is not necessarily what others perceive. I have led a conventional life, I suppose, except that it has been plagued by things that would seem to belong to someone completely opposite from myself. Yet, they are mine to own for always.
I have had my share of great triumphs and catastrophic mistakes. I hope that most people who knew me when I was young are not more apt to remember my failures. My family has always stood with me; giving praise for my accomplishments, guiding me from my stumbles, and my rock in dark hours. They have always had faith in me no matter the failed expectations. But what has made all the difference?: They believed.
I have a few friends, wonderful and unconventional, who have been with me through it all. They are all on Karma's gift list. I have baggage that I carry with me everywhere, but only because it's handcuffed to my wrist. Name one person baggage-free... I keep mine in the most discreet of suitcases I could find, but it is cumbersome nonetheless. I open it rarely, and try to laugh when I do. Do others laugh with me? Depends.
I know this: I try to be a good person. I try to do right by others, and myself. I want to find myself. Know myself. But this is an arduous task, and a very slow journey. Glad I'm patient. I know what I want from life. I have ambitious dreams. But I have come to learn that happiness can be found in the simplest of places, in the most uncomplicated ways.
A very special person once told me, "Shoot for the moon. If you don't make it, so you land among the stars." She is brilliant beyond her own knowing, and I love her dearly. I know many things about myself. Good and bad. But if I began to tell you, there would be questions. Questions that are hard for me to answer. Good and bad. The answers are coming to me, only as I get older. I am simply me. Text can rarely tell you more. Certainly not my own text.

My Interests

God, what am I interested in??? People. I'm not a really good solitary person. I like being with at least one other person or more. I don't have the opportunity to do most of the things I like. I like the outdoors, when I can find it. I'm dying to learn to kayak. Movies and reading. Computers are kinda my livelihood, so that's a given. I'm a traveler. My name should have been Wanderlust. I will step foot on all 7 continents before I am 30 years old. I love the clubs, and parties. Dancing is my therapy, it is my expression. I would die if I wasn't allowed to dance. I like doing all the normal crap they would put in a list box for me to check off.

I'd like to meet:

I'd like to meet people that can do the impossible. The simple tasks that almost all of us aspire to accomplish. Look beyond the first seven seconds of a face-to-face encounter. Say "Yes" when the mind screams "NO!" Give ourselves over to the gamble of a dream, to chance, with reasoned mind and heart. See what lies just below the surface. Give an accurate account of what we see in the mirror. Believe in the unbelievable. Laugh. There are plenty of times in life to cry. I want to meet those who laugh, who forgive, who can stand alone, who walk away from battles not worth fighting. I want to meet someone Honest and Sincere. I want to meet someone who would say nothing rather than lie to me. The TRUTH is most important above all.

Some very important quotes:

* In the beginning, our paths set out in a straight line, like a ray of light headed to the stars. The gravity of the stars, like the people we meet, bends and reshapes our course. They alter us, and our paths. Some in subtle ways, others more dramatically. Yet each time our final destination changes, and we become a better person in different ways. Most often it is in wisdom and experience. On this journey, to which there may be no true end, these people are our stars, our compass, guiding us along the way.
Where our destiny lies, we do not know, who we will be when we arrive, we cannot say, and what people we will know, we can only hope. It is in this, and these people, that we will find our true selves, our true fate, and our true happiness.

-- Me

O ther 'Must Knows':

* Time is a storm in which we are all hopelessly lost.

-- Anonymous

* The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

-- Eleanor Roosevelt

* My Father's dead, my Mother's a whore, my Brother wants to kill me, and my Sister's smokin' crack.

-- Nate on "Six Feet Under"

* Better never to have met you in my dreams than to wake and reach for hands that are not there.

-- Unknown

* The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

-- Unknown

* The greatest journey in life may be the distance between two people.

-- Unknown

* Our truest lives are when we are in our dreams awake.

-- Henry David Thoreau

* We sleep to time's hurdy-gurdy, we wake, if we ever wake, to the silence of God. And then, when we wake to the deep shores of time uncreated, then when the dazzling dark breaks over the far slopes of time, then it's time to toss things, like our reason and our will; then it's time to break our necks for home.
There are no events but thoughts and the heart's hard turning, the heart's slow learning where to love and whom. The rest is merely gossip, and tales for other times.

-- Annie Dillard "Holy the Firm"

* "You aren't going to be his first, maybe not his last, or his only. He's loved before, he may love again, but if he loves you now what else matters? He's not perfect. You aren't either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and admits to being human and making mistakes, hold on to him and give him the most you can. He isn't going to quote poetry, he's not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don't hurt him, don't change him, don't expect more than he can give. Don't analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he's not there. Love hard when there is love to be had."

-- Original version from Wonder-Woman (aka: Cynthia)

* Why do people have to die?...

-- To make life important…

Music:

The song: "I See Right Through to You" by DJ Encore is my favorite song of all time. Music is great. The song had it right when it said: If God was a DJ, Life is a dance floor, Love is rythm music, and You are the music. It probably says it differently, but I like it this way. My favorite music is Dance. Whatever it's called, or whatever you want to call it: House, Techno, Trance, etc... If it's in a Gay Dance Club, it's perfect. I like almost all music, however. Country, R&;B, Jazz, Soft Rock, Pop, Oldies, 80's. I am a huge fan of Big Band Music and Lounge Singers. The '40's and Sinatra, music like that. Classical and Opera are incredible. I could find a piece of Classical music to set as the background for every moment of life. I don't like Heavy Metal, Hip-Hop, etc. A.K.A.: Noise

Movies:

Movies are great. I'm a huge fan of the cinema, I don't care how outrageous the price of popcorn is these days. I could lay down and watch movies non-stop for at least 4 hours at a time. Favorite Movies: (Too hard to answer) I'm in LOVE with Julia Roberts... I just recently completed my collection of every film she has ever acted in (Thank you Liz!). Pretty Woman and The Pelican Brief are at the top, I know. I like everything though... Action, Comedy, Sci-Fi, love Horror, Drama... Brokeback Mountain. I saw it, I cried, I ached. It was moving, and terrifying, and even though it had some parts I would change, I can't, and I love it all the same.

Television:

I used to love TV. I had all these shows I loved to watch... I really don't know what happened. All of a sudden, one day I realized I hadn't seen any of those shows in ages. I would say I still like TV, but I don't often get the chance. The only three things I make time for are House, The Daily Show with John Stewart, and the Colbert Report.

Books:

Love Malcolm Gladwell (Blink, The Tipping Point... they will change your perspective). Of course Dan Brown. (Like them all, 'cept Deception Point was slow.) James Frey rocks! (Who cares what's true, the stories are incredible. Plus... Leonard's GAY! So Fuck Off Oprah!) I like Robert Crais (Anything with Elvis Cole... who doesn't love a Disney freak?) Robert Jordan and George R.R. Martin (No, he's not the LOTR guy) I really love Christopher Rice's "Density of Souls." It is perhaps my favorite book of all time. The book "Call of the Wild" is a must for those who don't know their direction... it will make you bawl.

Heroes:

Defining "Heroes" is a monumental task, and one that comes down to common wisdom and pure semantics. There is a general philosophy that Angels walk the Earth, here among us mere mortals. And with that, I passionately agree. The words are just confused, for those Angels are my Heroes... some I call friends, and the others I call family. They all know who they are, how much they mean to me, and how important they are to my life.

My Blog

Divine Intervention...?

So let me begin by saying that I am a Deist. While I believe in the existence of a benevolent creator, I do not believe in the idea of a divine being that plays an active role in the lives of humans...
Posted by Russell on Tue, 08 Apr 2008 07:06:00 PST

After the fundamentalist grows the lens...

New Year's Eve... and so 2007, my first full year back among the honorable, productive members of society, came to a peaceful an anticlimactic close. This past year had fewer ups and downs than 2006, ...
Posted by Russell on Wed, 02 Jan 2008 05:05:00 PST

Rolling with the punches...

      Lately I've been facing many important decisions and choices about friends, relationships, family, school, career, life, etc... I suppose the normal types of things ever...
Posted by Russell on Wed, 07 Nov 2007 06:40:00 PST

Philadelphia Syndrome, anyone?

    So I posted this bulletin yesterday, (I think), about how it is a very sad day when the standard for the human condition would be the continuous and perpetual expectation of disappo...
Posted by Russell on Wed, 26 Sep 2007 03:40:00 PST

Sex vs. the Single Man

    I should probably begin with a recap of the most recent events and news. For those of you who I haven't had the opportunity to tell, about a week or so after I graduate in May,...
Posted by Russell on Tue, 14 Aug 2007 08:37:00 PST

A Blog-worthy Bulletin

Tired of all of those surveys made up by school kids? 'Have you ever kissed someone?' 'Missed someone?' 'Told someone you loved them?' 'Drank alcohol?' Here are 50 questions for the people who are a ...
Posted by Russell on Sun, 10 Jun 2007 03:59:00 PST

Standing at the Edge

Stand ankle deep in the sea at the edge of the world, and look as far as your sight allows. Gaze beyond the limits set only by ones who have chosen to lose faith in the impossible. See what they refus...
Posted by Russell on Sat, 26 May 2007 06:47:00 PST

I am...

...so angry with myself for doing exactly what I knew I would do... for following my dangerous pattern... believing in the unbelievable... having faith in the impossible... how do you protect your hea...
Posted by Russell on Wed, 16 May 2007 06:55:00 PST

The Race Down Memory Lane

    This past Friday, after almost 5 years, I finally returned to Oklahoma. I went to see old friends, new friends, and see a little piece of my past with a new face. I probably don't e...
Posted by Russell on Tue, 17 Apr 2007 09:01:00 PST

Brokedown Palace and Easter with the Cleavers

    This weekend was loaded... and at points, so was I. It started Friday night, when I went out with one of my best friends Matt. It was kinda like his birthday weekend, since he turn...
Posted by Russell on Sun, 08 Apr 2007 02:06:00 PST